People who are truly successful in life usually treat those around them in a special way – these habits are usually highly unusual for successful people.
No matter how we define success, how successful we are in life or in big bass demo, is usually at least partly related to how we interact with other people. And this is true in several ways: on the one hand, high social skills will help us achieve our personal goals. On the other hand, we will treat people differently when we are leading a successful life – as opposed to when we are just starting out and have an arduous road ahead of us.
In any case, interpersonal interaction often shows very clearly whether a person is truly successful or merely appears to be successful. The following behaviors are typical for the latter group – but we do not usually observe them in truly successful people.
OUR LIST WHAT SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE DO NOT DO
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overcompensating and pretending to be perfect.
Some people feel a strong need to leave a very positive impression on others. They want all the world to know how intelligent they are, how much they accomplish, how successful they are. Truly successful people usually do not have this need, or at best have a much weaker need. They know that what they can do and are is enough, because it has proven to be enough many times in their lives.
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belittling others.
Showing other people up and making them small is a more or less conscious way for some people to make themselves look better or to appear bigger and more impressive. However, those who experience or have experienced real success in their lives do not rely on such things – more or less consciously. Successful people usually find it relatively easy to compliment others, to praise them and to explicitly note their strengths and successes. They listen to their fellow human beings, respond to their ideas and value their perspective.
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very quick to demand a lot.
When it comes to achieving their own goals, successful people rely primarily on themselves and their abilities. They accept help and ask for support when they need it, but they do not expect special treatment or extraordinary commitment. They act in a similar way with their fellow human beings: They do not impose their advice on anyone, but trust that others will approach them if they are interested in it. And then they give it and help as far as they can.
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bend to fit in.
Some people who want to succeed at all costs willingly give up their values, ideals, or parts of their identity to fit into the circle they think will help them succeed. On the other hand, those who are or want to be truly successful usually do not. Truly successful people know or feel that their success is primarily due to themselves and not to how smoothly they fit into any circles. Likewise, they have internalized that the truly important people in their lives will respect and accept them as they are – and those who do not are not worthy of their effort.
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Fake modesty.
Some people downplay their strengths and successes in order to motivate others to praise and encourage them. Others do it because they have a hard time dealing with success and it makes them uncomfortable in some way. Successful people, on the other hand, celebrate their successes. They recognize them as such because they are aware of their personal goals and aspirations, and they rejoice in them and appreciate them because they do not take success for granted or see it as something they are entitled to. In this regard, successful people generally do not care to the greatest extent possible whether others consider them successful or not – they set their goals solely for themselves and not to impress others.
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Accept disrespectful behavior.
Successful people typically have a strong sense of self-worth – and cultivate it. This includes, among other things, insisting that those around them treat them the way they deserve to be treated and the way they treat them. Successful people do not usually let injustice or false accusations against them stand, but in most cases demand clarification and apology.
